It is Hate's Purpose to Steal Your Joy: Don't Let Him Win!
To damage a person's kibun is a grave sin in Korean Culture. The hierarchy of respect in the family and in business are based on this concept. That is why Koreans bow to their elders or superiors and use a complex system of address to convey a person's proper place in polite society. We have heard words like hyung (older brother, male), noona (older sister, male), oppa (older brother, female), eonie (older sister, female), sunbae (upper classman), seonsaengnim (teacher or superior), and oemeonim (mother, mother in law), abeonim (father, father in law), haimeonim (grandmother), and harabeoji (grandfather) to name a few. All of these addresses show respect and assign the proper amount of status in the societal structure.
기분 (Gi-boon) or Kibun is an important factor to consider in Korean culture when it comes to relationship. Kibun has no exact English translation. But it is mostly related to terms like pride, face, mood, mind, or feelings.
I want to appeal to this woman fervently to consider what she has done to a person who does not deserve this Public Shame. What happened was private, and she knows in her heart of hearts that Kim Hyun Joong is a Good Man. She knows that her lies are destroying a person in a vicious and cruel way. She knows that her anger and jealousy have gone too far. Unfortunately, it seems too late to turn back now. I know she is surrounded by family, friends and lawyers who are urging her to get her compensation and revenge. I am hoping she will consider in her heart the severity of the damage that is being done. I hope she can consider Kim Hyun Joong's Kibun and reconsider her path. To release such a statement to the press demanding apologies and compensation and threatening him so openly is beyond cowardice. Walk up to his face and say these things. Meet with him personally and make your threats. You couldn't do that and you know it. You are being USED by people who want only Headlines and Greed.
And for the sake of Kim Hyun Joong, let's not damage his Kibun any further by becoming like his enemy. His True Enemy is Evil, not a human being. I know he will be broken and bruised if his Beautiful Fans become ugly and evil as well. We may think we are defending him, but we are defacing him even more when we behave as she has, as his haters have, hurling curses and pain. We represent the most Beautiful Soul I have ever witnessed. Let's keep his Respect in tact, and Kill them with Kindness as they saying goes. Love erases hate. Love destroys Evil. Love frees the Soul. So, love others as you would have them love you, and as you love yourself. Don't let them pull you into darkness and pain. Stay Strong, Shine Out, let the whole world See how beautiful you are and how you were Created to Be. Love. It is the only way to defeat the pain, the damage, the sorrow and scars. Love each other. Love Hyun Joong. And love little Miss A because she deserves love too. It is my guess that she has never really been loved before, and that is why she appears to be so damaged. Perhaps, if she is loved in spite of herself, her heart will heal and she will relent.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11