Fans are devastated as Unbreakable Gentleman Kim Hyun Joong stands accused of the Unthinkable Act of abusing his Girlfriend:
The recent allegations by his former girlfriend of a few months have hit the fans like a cruel slap in the face, and the fiery emotions felt only when someone you love and admire is accused of such a horror are overwhelming. My initial response was posted as a comment on Laser Kim’s blog post where she poured out her feelings about this shocking claim. I was emotional and VERY defensive of Kim Hyun Joong as I would be of any one of my 4 brothers. I have been watching him for 5 years now and never once, would there be any indication of an abusive personality.
Since the official statement was released, further damaging evidence has been reported the the two were indeed dating for longer than a couple of months and the woman has submitted date stamped pictures and text conversations to not only prove they were together since 2012, but that Kim Hyun Joong admitted to hitting her and apologized for the abuse stating, 'I don't know why I did this.' All I have to say to that is pictures can be misleading and text messages can be taken out of context to mean anything. I would rather see all of the messages in context, as opposed to pulling out bits and pieces that prove her story. A person's words can be misquoted and misused easily to make any situation seem plausible.
That being said, I still hold my position of being loyal and faithful to Kim Hyun Joong as his fan. Even if he made a mistake in a heated moment, it does not erase all the good he has done in the past. Some comments I have seen accuse him of holding up a façade as the ‘good guy,’ and suggest his fans stop believing the fantasy he has created as his image. I would counter that with a request of proof. If Kim Hyun Joong is such an excellent actor that he has fooled his devoted fan base for going on 10 years, why did the same antis accuse him of having such POOR and INCOMPETENT acting skills all these years? Until Inspiring Generation, Kim Hyun Joong has been the recipient 0f harsh criticism for his acting, and only recently became acknowledged by the Korean Media and general drama fans.
I am generally regarded as a fair and objective person who sees both sides of any situation. This ‘shades of grey’ view often gets people up in arms who are ‘black and white,’ ‘good or bad,’ ‘all or nothing’ types. I am sympathetic to this girl if she was indeed treated badly by Kim Hyun Joong. If the charges are corroborated by his statements to the police, I will be heartbroken and disappointed. If it turns out that he could not control his anger and got physical with her, I will still love him with my whole heart and will pray that he gets help if the abuse charges turn out to be valid. Until that time, I can only hold with my opinion of the person I have come to know by observing his ACTIONS which speak so much louder than words. Kim Hyun Joong has always been humble, honest and a gentleman wherever he happens to find himself. Countless fan accounts, news articles, and descriptions from co-actors and staff on the sets of his dramas and behind the scenes at his live shows tell the tale of a man who is grounded, centered, and down to earth.
I say, this is a very serious and damaging accusation, and until both sides of the story are heard, judgment should be reserved. Unfortunately, when allegations like this are made, it is very difficult for a man to defend himself. What happened, happened in private, and only Kim Hyun Joong and his girlfriend kow what REALLY happened. Because of the seriousness of the charges, I fear Hyun Joong will not be able to escape the situation without looking guilty. The mud has been thrown, and Kim Hyun Joong has no choice but to wear it. If he admits to the abuse, he will be discredited as a poser and a liar all these years. If he denies it, people will still maintain that he is lying and paint him as guilty anyway. It seems he has been cornered with no hope of reprieve. It is my hope that he will be able to move through this hardship as he has so many in his past and emerge with the dignity and grace we have always seen from him
The Police have stated that the investigation is still not complete, and will not be until Hyun Joong has been given a chance to make his statement and tell his side. I am anxiously awaiting his words. I just want to know the truth.
"All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered. The point is to discover them." --Galileo